March 11, 2010
How To Raise Your Self Confidence
There were a range of things which impacted upon my overall self-confidence and self-esteem levels as I grew from being a young child to a man. These included:
A bald patch on my head
A speech impediment known as a stutter
A weight problem, I was basically too fat
I am rather vertically challenged at only 5ft 4
Certain people I met would be quite nasty and would try to make fun of me. I tried really hard to ensure that these nasty people did not affect me however I must admit that there were many a time when I would shed a tear. Life at times was quite tough especially where I worked at the company offering a Medical negligence claims service.
These people were making my life a misery and by the age of twenty-two I had had enough. I decided I needed a big change in attitude and started to read books about life and about positive thinking etc.
These were the things I had to take on board:
Who cares what other people think about you? As long as you like and have respect yourself nothing else really matters
You need to start to like yourself
There are likely to be many things about yourself that you are not too about about however some of these you are unable to change. You therefore have to start accepting these things and realising that maybe there are other people in life who are more unfortunate than you.
You need to have respect for yourself
Only accept the best from life
I tried hard to implement this advice and even though it was not easy to change, I knew I had to. It is now time to make the most out of my life; I have a lot of catching up to do - there is certainly no time for worrying. I have also managed to eradicate the stuttering problem.
I have now become a successful external doors salesman and my life is now much happier overall.
I hope this article will be of benefit to the people who read it.
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March 1, 2010
How To Become Successful
I like make many mistakes in the same way that each and every person who reads this article does. People who are successful are the ones who can accept these errors and who then go on and learn from them.
My parents taught me a lot of things about life and I clearly remember my father sitting me down when I was around fourteen years of age and speaking to me about this subject. He stated that he thought I was a decent person who knew right from wrong, he was however aware that I would make some mistakes. I was a person that had a speech imediment, commonly known as stuttering. I think having this impediment helped to make me grow up a lot quicker than some of the other kids.
He continued that he would not ask me to come home by a certain point at night and that he would let me make my own choices. If at any point he heard or learnt that I had done something that he thought was wrong or stupid, he would not tell me off but instead he would ask me if I agreed that I had been stupid etc. If I agreed, that would be the end of the matter, the problem would only occur if I then made the same mistake again as that would mean I had not learnt from the experience. He would then in his words, come down on me like a ton of bricks.
I agreed that this seemed fair and carried on living my life. I wondered what he had meant by the ton of bricks statement. I did make many mistakes and we had to have our chat on many occasions, I am happy to say that I did learn from my errors and never had to find out what he had meant.
I am somebody who loves playing sport. I am very competitive and do not like losing. I have had to accept that at times I will lose, however when I do I always ask myself a question, what could I have done differently today? What could I do differently next time I play to ensure the result is a positive one?
It is the same in business where I sell composite doors and also where I offer Currys Voucher Codes; I am always eager to try and reach that next level up.
I am very grateful to this lesson my parents taught me and hope that in the future my children will be thankful at the way I and their mother have raised them.
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November 21, 2009
How To Stop Stressing
Up until a few years ago many of my friends and family used to call me “a stress head”. Why you may well be thinking? Well quite simply because I seemingly stressed about anything and everything.
So what was the cause of all of this stress? I suppose if I am truthful the majority of my problems at the time came about due to the fact that I had a stutter. This speech impediment had developed when I was at the age of four. As you may well imagine it is something that destroyed my overall confidence levels. Therapy for stuttering, at the time, was less than impressive which did not exactly help the situation.
My low self-esteem had a bad affect on many areas of my life, not just my speech. I would worry about what other people thought of me, I would stress about my height and my weight. I was so desperate, for whatever reason, for people to like me. Looking back it all just sounds so crazy but it was like I was being controlled by some demonic force. It even affected my career which is within the independent fostering services industry.
The turning point came as I entered into my twenties; it was time for a change and a big one at that. I could no longer live in this way – there surely had to be more to life than this.
I was soon to realise that I was the only person who was going to sort my life out.
I started to work very hard at learning how to increase self-esteem for example. I watched the way in which great fluent talkers spoke and tried to compare it with the way that I spoke. I hoped this would result in me finding the solution to my stuttering problem.
Progress was far from quick however after around a year of battling against my demons I did manage to overcome the stutter and I did manage to discover ways to stop me stressing – it is all about attitude and the way we approach life – think positive and believe in yourself!
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November 14, 2009
The Quest To Find A Stuttering Cure
Are you looking for techniques that can help you to eradicate your stutter? Has speech and language therapy or pathology been unable to help you to the levels that you require? Have you had enough of accepting second best in life? The above three questions are ones that I would regularly answer in the positive during the eighteen years when I had a stutter. I have to admit that I was forever in search for a cure for stammering and stuttering.
Now I am fully aware to call it a stuttering cure is not exactly what some people would call the “correct English” but I basically was looking for a way or a set of techniques that could enable me to “stop stuttering”. At there time there were not that many stuttering therapies out there, or at least not ones that were worthy of the name.
I always find it strange when I read about the so called National Associations for Stuttering or Stammering. They always seem to refer people to their local speech and language therapist. Well that is a great referral! What is the point of asking people to attend speech therapy, something that has been unable to help them in the past? Speech therapy does not work for people who stutter, well not to the levels that they desire - again to stop stuttering completely and let’s face it anything else is to accept second best.
I searched high and low in my quest to find the solutions to stuttering. I read many a book, asked many a question and studied many of the “best talkers”.
I put in a massive amount of effort, hard work and dedication as that is what is required. The majority of people are fully aware and accept that there is not one magical pill that can cure a stutter. What is required is a desire to succeed and a willingness to work hard to ensure that the techniques become second nature.
There is now a seventy-minute film which has been produced by a DVD replication company in association with The How To Stop Stuttering Centre which has full explanations of the techniques required to achieve fluency.
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